"And I sensed in him a huge chasm between who he was and what he let himself know about who he was. When I think about his capacity to love himself, I am plunged into the cold water of tragedy."
I was this guy once. It stemmed from a childhood trauma I didn't understand. I recently wrote about it because another writer, a woman, shared her story about her trauma.
It was PTSD and trust issues I didn't put together until later. I didn't know how to love or be vulnerable enough to accept love. Because it I hurt good women and hurt myself too.
I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have so much empathy for men in our society who are expected to just…not have emotions? And then when they do they don’t have the tools to navigate them. Not that women are totally perfect at it, but I think they learn more about their emotions because they are “allowed” and expected to have them.
Glad you have been able to name some of what was going on for you! Just being able to acknowledge what is happening can be so healing.
"And I sensed in him a huge chasm between who he was and what he let himself know about who he was. When I think about his capacity to love himself, I am plunged into the cold water of tragedy."
I was this guy once. It stemmed from a childhood trauma I didn't understand. I recently wrote about it because another writer, a woman, shared her story about her trauma.
It was PTSD and trust issues I didn't put together until later. I didn't know how to love or be vulnerable enough to accept love. Because it I hurt good women and hurt myself too.
I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have so much empathy for men in our society who are expected to just…not have emotions? And then when they do they don’t have the tools to navigate them. Not that women are totally perfect at it, but I think they learn more about their emotions because they are “allowed” and expected to have them.
Glad you have been able to name some of what was going on for you! Just being able to acknowledge what is happening can be so healing.
Ugh and you were there for it all!!! For all the big dreams and all the big grief. XOXO